Safety During an Explosive Incident

• The most dangerous places in the home are the bathroom, kitchen, and bedroom.
• During the argument, look for the safest way to get out.   Identify which doors, windows, elevator, or stairwell would be best.
• Devise a code word to use with your children, family, or friends when you need the police.
• Decide and plan for where you will go if you need to leave quickly.
• Use your own instincts and judgement.
• You don't deserve to be hit or threatened!!!

Safety When Preparing to Leave    Click here to view a checklist

• Open a savings account and/or credit card in your own name to start to establish your independence.
• Get your own post office box.  You can privately receive checks and letters.
• Keep an extra set of keys, important documents, and money in a hidden spot so you can leave immediately.
• Determine where you will go if you have to leave without notice.
• Keep the shelter or hotline phone number on hand.
• Leaving your batterer is the most dangerous time.  Review your plan often in order to stay safe.

Safety in Your Own Home

• Change the locks on the doors and secure the windows as soon as possible.
• Discuss safety with your children for when you are not with them.
• Inform your children's school, daycare, etc., about who has permission to pick up your children.
• Inform neighbors and landlord that your partner no longer lives with you and that they should call the police if they see him/her near your home.

Safety With an Order of Protection

• Keep your order of protection on you at all times.
• Call the police if your partner breaks the order of protection.
• Think of an alternate ways to stay safe if the police do not respond right away.
• Inform family, friends, neighbors, and your physician or health care provider that you have an order of protection in effect.

Safety on the Job

• Decide who at work you will inform of your situation.
• Devise a safety plan for when you leave work (i.e. someone escorting you to your car or taking different routes home)
• Arrange to have a trusted co-worker screen your calls.

Your Safety and Emotional Health

• If you return to a potentially abusive situation, discuss an alternative plan with someone you trust.
• If you must communicate with your partner, determine the safest way to do so.
• Fulfill your needs and do things that make you feel good about yourself.
• Determine who can give you the support you need.
• Try to attend support groups for victims of domestic violence to learn more about yourself and the relationship.

For Teens in a Violent Relationship

• Decide who you can confide in about the abuse.
• Call the Sojourn Hotline.  They will listen and help and find you options.