Take the time to figure out what you value and like about yourself.If your partner
doesnt appreciate those things, they may be the wrong partner. Take the time to
figure out what kind of person you want to date. Dont let that initial attraction
blind you to qualities you dont admire. Pay attention to how you feel about yourself
when you are with your partner. If youve lost touch with what you used to like about
yourself and are feeling bad about yourself, youre probably with the wrong person.
Know Your Partners History
Ask around and find out why past relationships ended. Was there jealousy, control or
violence? Pay attention to how your partner treats people. Is your partner constantly
putting people down, making fun of them or making sexist comments? These attitudes may be
turned on you someday.
Make clear to your partner how you expect to be treated. Let your partner know you will
not tolerate any kind of abuse.Be honest in your communications. You are responsible for
meaning what you say. Being coy and manipulative is not sexy.
It is dangerous.
Avoid Dangerous Situations
Avoid places where youll be alone until you get to know your partner. Double
date or hang-out together with other friends. Let someone know what your plans are for the
evening and about when you expect to be home.
Be in Control
Dont be helpless or "in debt" to a dating partner. Have your own way to
get home in case of emergencies. Pay your own way. Dont use alcohol or other drugs.
These substances can severely hamper your ability to think clearly and act quickly if you
find yourself in a dangerous situation.
Think twice about going out with someone who: uses alcohol or other drugs; enjoys
pornography; wants to be in control of where you go, what you do, who you see; drives
recklessly, especially with you in the car; says they will kill themselves if you leave
this is a sure sign of an unhealthy relationship.